Long, sad story of antitransmasculine parents
There’s a friend of my older twins in middle school named E— who I will pronoun as she/her because that’s what she currently goes by. Recently, she came out to her parents as trans masc and said her pronouns were he/they and her name was Noah.My twins were excited and made the change flawlessly (as kids do) and I was happy to see so much self-discovery. Her parents, however, are fucking trash.
Her father said he “doesn’t believe in that stuff” (which, okay then I’m done with you since I am “that stuff.”) Her mother said she’ll try it for a week but then put her in “emergency counseling” (with a non-queer-positive counselor) and started buying her frilly dresses and trying to teach her makeup.
My twins said that she has finally begun to seem happy when she came out, but her parents made it SOO hard that immediately after she was actually in a much darker space than before.
After about a week, I asked my kids “how is Noah? Have you talked to him about everything?” And my daughter snapped at me and said “Don’t call her Noah! She’s going by E— again!”
The response caught me off-guard, so I asked about it. Apparently, she went hard back to she/her because her parents made her life a living hell, and now doesn’t want anyone even to mention it.
It is so fucking crushing to me. And this woman interacts with me like nothing is wrong and I have to be civil and not scream and smack her in her bitch ass face.
And what’s awful about it to me is the mom’s assurance that “it wasn’t real” since “she just switched back so fast.”
Like you absolute fucking garbage. She’s in fucking middle school, what fucking choice does she have? You shithead piece of shit!
I think and ask about E— all the time because I hate so much to see someone surrounded by people like my gay enby child and still not able to be themselves. And I told her that she can be Noah and he/him in our house.
But she asked me to respect her name and pronouns, because “being a boy didn’t make anything any easier and made everything harder.”
That’s the worst part: That she already believes it’s true.
